We’ve never been in this position before – what to do in the case of a global pandemic. A lot of couples with upcoming weddings are scrambling to reschedule, and if that’s you, let me just say… it sucks. There’s nothing worse than being so insanely excited to marry your love, only to have to move everything. To give you a bit of guidance, I put together a wedding checklist of sorts to help you navigate next steps.
“Worst Case Scenario Wedding Checklist” – aka Rescheduling Your ENTIRE Wedding
Steps, Tips, and Next Steps
1) Check in with your significant other
It’s important to check in with your partner to make sure you’re on the same page. If you’re feeling upset and frustrated, chances are they are too. Don’t be afraid to talk it out, and know that it’s ok to vent a little bit.
2) Find a few alternative dates
Obviously rescheduling an entire wedding is NOT ideal. But you’re better off talking about it sooner rather than waiting it out. No one knows how long the lockdown will go on for, so be proactive and find a few alternative dates that you can move your wedding to – either in 2020 or 2021.
Once you’ve come up with a few alternative dates, download the Doodle app so you can coordinate with all of your wedding vendors.
With Doodle, you can add collaborators, create polls, and create a simple group schedule for free.
3) Discuss whether you’d rather stick to your original wedding plans or elope instead
I realize how heartbreaking it is to have to cancel or move all of your original wedding day plans. But if having the (big) wedding of your dreams isn’t possible, maybe moving to an elopement is an option – at least until you can host a big event and celebrate with all of your family and friends. If you’re not sure whether to hold out for your big dream wedding or just elope, check out this post to get some more info.
4) Reach out to your vendors
A lot of wedding vendors (myself included) are doing everything possible to make moving to a new date as easy as possible! Let your wedding vendors know how you’re feeling and where you’re at – they want what’s best for you and are going to want to help.
If at all possible, reschedule instead of cancelling – this not only makes it easier for your vendors, it saves you time + money.
When you simply reschedule and move to a new date, your vendor can (more than likely) just use your existing retainer/deposit. It also saves you from potentially losing your retainer and spending more valuable time searching for replacement vendors.
5) Notify family + friends
Quite possibly the saddest part about rescheduling. Telling your family and friends that you’re not going to be able to host them for your big day sucks big time. But they love you and will be more than excited to celebrate with you when the day does (finally) come! My girl Avi Scribbles has some beautiful FREE templates that you can customize to notify your guests that you’re postponing your plans.
6) Enjoy some quality time together
Being trapped inside your house with your boo may be more like nails on a chalkboard after a few weeks than a romantic walk in the park. But don’t take this time for granted.
Chat, play board games, go on long walks, have candlelit dinners, Netflix your hearts out, have long coffee breaks together.
Basically, enjoy your extended engagement.
It may not be what you had planned on, and it may not seem like much of a blessing right now. But sometimes it’s when we look for those little silver linings that we can find some beauty in the monotony.